Relationships are tricky, especially when they pass beyond the initial dating period, where both the partners are at their best behaviors, and everything is going in a flow. The part which comes later is where people, mostly men, start tripping over.
These are the most common mistakes men make in a relationship.
1. Being way too mushy
It’s good when both the partners act as each other’s support system, but women do not like it when their man is way too emotionally dependant on them. Emotions are natural, emotions are human, but women get annoyed when their man is always looking for comfort when they need some comforting of their own. It’s God’s way that he made women softer by nature, so they need their man to have some solid ground, shelter her, be her rock.
Every woman wants a man who is courageous, practical, and brave enough to take care of В her as well as himself. Don’t be all over the place.
2. Showering her with way too many presents
This one’s more common at the beginning of the relationship, a man would shower her with all kinds of expensive gifts, fancy dinners, etc. This is a mistake because it starts looking like you have nothing of your personality that could impress her, so to keep her around, you have to compensate with all these gifts. Moreover, you’re setting high expectations, so when the relationship proceeds and the process of spending every last penny on her slows down, you’ll hear things like ‘you have changed’ or ‘you don’t love me anymore.’ Everybody loves presents, but there has to be a balance between them. They should be cherished rather than expected.
3. You are not listening to them.
This is the most common complaint coming from women worldwide that he isn’t attentive to what I say. Men need to understand that women by nature are verbally more expressive and they want to be heard, instead of just nodding to whatever she says while you’re spaced out. Some women are more talkative than others. If you don’t like talking much, then don’t go for a chatty woman hoping to change her eventually. Be attentive.
4. Being a pushover
A relationship starts falling apart when one of the partners has complete control of the relationship. Women secretly dislike men who cannot take the initiative and always look up to them for all their decisions. Women do not like men who lack a spine; they need to be lead, not always but every once in a while. Women start resenting men who are way too agreeable and say a yes to anything and everything they say. The power in a relationship needs to be 50-50, don’t be her yes-man.
5. Being complacent
Having ambitions and a positive driving force is the most attractive quality a man can have. Women believe more in the future; they like a man who has something going on for himself individually and for them as a couple, being stagnant while life passes you by just won’t cut it. Women want their men to be goal-oriented, which leads to a better, pleasant future involving both of you. Keep moving; stay motivated.
6. Changing your priorities
Men give all their attention, time, and love to their woman at the beginning of the relationship, making her your number one. Still, as time passes and the relationship becomes older, priorities change. Men start spending more time at work or with friends or in their hobbies etc. They stop doing things they used to do at the beginning of the relationship to win over the same woman. You’re not giving her due importance and taking her presence for granted; this negligence can slowly develop the relationship. Giving priority to your relationship is the key to have a satisfied woman.
7. Letting the relationship drive itself
Men need to understand that a relationship needs to be treated like a living thing, which requires constant efforts to be kept alive. It needs to be fed with love to keep it growing. If you let it drive itself, you’ll find yourself drifting apart from your partner; the relationship starts diminishing till it vanishes completely. Efforts need to be made to keep it healthy and maintained, keep bringing something to the relationship. Romance should never take the back seat.